when in a relationship how long should one wait to be married?? whenever this topic comes up people always try and run away from it, or people always feel uncomfortable. its almost like we as people feel like when asked about the big M word we feel pressured. but honestly why?? I truly think it is something deep within when someone has a hard time with A talking abut it or B actually taking the steps to marry. everyone has many different views. Me personally I feel if the person your with is your best friend you don’t want to live without that person why not be married.. yes yes I know marriage is a huge step. but it really only becomes a Hugh step because people let everything like Money Politics etc.. get in the way of their love. so again I ask how long is too long to wait? I’ve heard of some stories of people getting together and are married within a year, within a few months. how long is too long? in the movie sex and the city Carie and Big got married after 10 years. 10 long years. is 10 years too long or just right? If your partner doesn’t want to get married should you end the relationship, or try and hope and pray that they will change their minds. what if the person wants to be married believes in marriage but the one their currently with their just not into. what if they are with them just buying time? what if they are scared? so many what ifs right…..
its been awhile and guess what I pick now to write.. I mean COVID 19 is happening now.. what better time to get some things off my chest.. first off this shit is crazy.. I mean people are really dying left and right.. sometimes I feel like we are living a nightmare. I mean with everything going on you would think civilization would begin to see the bigger picture.. Nope not at all. I mean you have some who are taking things very serious. keeping the social distancing, staying in doors only going out if they are real essential workers or if they need things from the grocery stores. then you have these idiots I mean come on people. social media is going crazy people are drinking there lives away.. now I know many are scared that’s ok.. fear can be overcome. lets think about our health, lets begin to connect spiritually and mentally. think of everything you’ve done in your life everything your looking forward to doing.. this thing that’s happening is big and we really shouldn’t over look or take it for a joke. lets use this time to reconnect with family, reconnect with our dreams and passions, reconnect with our children. how about this, reconnecting with the higher power. whoever that may be for you. lets start living with purpose.
QUESTION?? WHEN WAS IT OK TO CHEAT ON SOMEONE?? WHEN AND HOW DID CHEATING COME ABOUT?? AND WHAT IS CHEATING TO YOU?? THIS IS A TOUCHY TOPIC BECAUSE EVERYONE HAS DIFFERENT VIEWS.. I MEAN THE PEOPLE THAT ARE DOING THE CHEATING OF COURSE THERE GOING TO FEEL LIKE WHAT THERE DOING IS NOT WRONG.. SOME PEOPLE THAT IS NOT ALL.. RELATIONSHIPS ARE WORK AND SOMETIMES YOU WANT TO CHECK OUT BUT YOU HAVE TO ASK YOURSELF IS IT WORTH IT.. WHEN THINGS ARE NOT GOING RIGHT OR YOU REALLY FEEL LIKE YOU ARE NO LONGER INTERESTED IN THE OTHER PERSON WHY NOT TELL THEM?? WHY CHEAT ON THEM?? IS IT A FEELING OF SATISFACTION, DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR STILL IN THE GAME?? OR MAYBE ITS DONE BECAUSE SOMEONE DID IT TO YOU…SO ITS LIKE A BACK AND FOURTH THING.. DO MEN AND WOMEN CHEAT FOR DIFFERENT REASONS?? OPEN FOR DISCUSSION….
02/12/08 I was told I should blog about breastfeeding. I mean why not right? this shit is not easy I can say and I know so many other women are going through the same thing. I am 2 months in and still cant seem to get it right. I mean my Zola is gaining weight but as of lately I feel so disconnected. not from her but from the whole experience. maybe my body feels it because my milk supply is different Zola is still hungry after sucking from both breast she is still fussy and not very happy. one night it was soo difficult she woke up every 40/50min can you say team no sleep. I couldn’t take it I researched was this normal what can I do.. I had to give her a bottle with Similac formula I mean I cant have my child hungry.. when the bottle was done my girl burped and was so pleased and happy. she slept from 4am until 9:30..yayyyyyy the best ever I mean come on everyone was happy she was no longer hungry and I got to sleep. Now I am conflicted because im going back to work next month and honestly I am no longer interested in breast feeding anymore. I continue to pump and give her the breast but I also give her formula.. I do feel like with me being so disconnected its messing with my supply. why am I disconnected? honestly I feel like I have no life like when Zola is done she will either A) pass out sleeping or fall asleep and wake up 10 min later wanting more.. its very difficult to even shower let alone clean up or fix any meals. lets be even more real I am dying to have a few glasses of wine im constantly reminiscing about the times I would come home from work and have at least two glasses of Red Wine my FAVORITE lol.. but yeah just a little bit of how im feeling .
OVER AND OUT…..INDIA
OMG I KNOW I KNOW I’VE BEEN MIA..PREGNANCY WILL DO THAT TO YOU..LOL 5 MONTHS AND ALL I CAN SAY IS I CANT WAIT UNTIL ITS OVER.. ITS CRAZY BECAUSE SOO MANY PEOPLE I SPEAK TO ARE LIKE “I LOVED BEING PREGNANT” “OMG WHEN I WAS PREGNANT I WAS NEVER SICK” BLAH BLAH BLAH.. I CAN SAY THESE THINGS TOO BUT ONLY WITH MY FIRST,AND THAT WAS 10 YEARS AGO ITS SO TRUE THE OLDER A FEMALE GETS THE MORE DIFFICULT PREGNANCY IS.. BETWEEN MY MORNING SICKNESS AND NAUSEA THE FIRST TRIMESTER NOW THIS HEART BURN AND GAS FOR THE BEGINNING OF MY SECOND TRIMESTER SHEEESHH… CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME INDIA ITS GOING TO GET BETTER LOLLOLLOL WELL DUH IT WILL BE BETTER WHEN MY BEAUTIFUL GIFT FROM GOD ARRIVES..OK IM DONE FOR THE NIGHT HEARTBURN STARTING AGAIN…XOXO INDIA
how big are you when it comes to showing affection? whether its towards your children, spouse, or family member? I must say this is a funny topic to discuss. some will say family and children is a must, but when it comes to spouse it depends on how much they show them.. is this true?? ok my thoughts I honestly feel affection is very much needed all around family, children,and spouses. you learn affection from family which helps you to give it to your children and spouse. when coming from a broken home one might 1- not know how and what affection is about because they never had it.2 look for affection so they begin to accept any and everything from anyone 3- will make sure when they have children or get into a relationship show all the affection in the world. with children I feel you have to tell them how beautiful they are, how smart they are, and how unique they are, and of course telling them you love them on a daily bases. these things are important it builds character and confidence from every angle. when it comes to family we sometimes grow up and forget that it is important to call and check up on family members, have family functions, and show support.. this keeps the family together, keeps the love growing. last but not least your spouse lol boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband whatever you want to call them . affection is what keeps your relationship strong and growing as well. now I’m not only talking about affection during sex lol thats easy.. I mean showing it with everything talking, hugging,kissing, having conversation etc. don’t be petty and say well if they don’t show me affection I’m not showing them affection lol ive fallen guilty of this but ive learned this doesn’t help at all.. it actually makes the relationship fall apart. last but not least if you are an affectionate person and get with someone who isn’t but you love them work on it..maybe there willing to open up and maybe there affectionate for you is shown differently talk about it and come to an agreement…xoxo India
ARE STEP PARENTS IMPORTANT? SHOULD ONE ALLOW THE PERSON THERE WITH TO PLAY A ROLE IN THERE CHILDS LIFE IF THERE NOT THE PARENT? AT WHAT AGE DO YOU BRING A NEW MALE OR FEMALE AROUND YOUR CHILD? HOW SOON IS TOO SOON I GUESS IS THE BIGGEST QUESTION. WHEN HAVING A CHILD ONE DOESNT REALLY THINK “THERES A POSSIBILITY THAT ME AND THIS PERSON WILL NOT BE TOGETHER FOREVER.. THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT I WILL BE A SINGKE MOTHER AND OR FATHER. BUT THEN IT HAPPENS THINGS DONT WORK OUT AND YOU AND THE OTHER PARENT HAVE TO FIGURE THIS CO PARENTING THING OUT.. WAIT WAIT NOT ONLY DO YALL HAVE TO FIGURE OUT THIS COPARENTING THING YA’LL HAVE TO FIGURE OUT WHEN IS IT OK FOR YOU TO DATE AND HAVE THE PERSON YOUR DATING MEET YOUR CHILD. OR WAIT EVEN BETTER PLAY A ROLE IN YOUR CHILDS LIFE IF AND WHEN YALL GET SERIOUS. SHIT! SOUNDS LIKE A LOT RIGHT? I MEAN ITS REALLY NOT. HONESTLY ITS THE YOUNGER GENERATION THATS MAKING THINGS LIKE THIS COMPLICATED YES WHEN INTRODUCING YOUR CHILD/CHILDREN TO SOMEONE NEW YOU DO HAVE TO MAKE SURE THIS IS THE PERSON WHO YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE WITH. NOT ONLY THAT BUT THEY HAVE TO BE WILLING TO PLAY THAT ROLE.. EVEN IF BOTH PARENTS ARE IN THE CHILDS LIFE THE MORE THE MARRY. “IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD SO WHY NOT ALLOW WHOEVER THE PARENTS ARE DEALING WITH HELP MOLD THE CHILD TO BE GREAT. I HERE SO MANY DIFFERENT VIEWS ON THIS.. ‘OH NO MY CHILD IS NOT MEETING ANYONE NEW” OR WAIT HOW ABOUT THIS ONE ” MY CHILD HAS A MOTHER OR FATHER DONT NEED ANOTHER” OR WAIT LAST ONE ” YOU BETTER NOT HAVE MY CHILD AROUND THAT BITCH OR THAT DUDE.. SMH ITS CRAZY I MEAN ITS ALREADY DIFFICULT FIGURING THIS COPARENTING THING OUT, NOW I HAVE TO FOLLOW RULES TOO..SO I HAVE A QUESTION HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT ALLOWING YOUR CHILD AROUND THE NEW MAN OR WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE? ARE YOU OPPOSED TO IT OR AGAINST?
ALL New York CITY PUBLIC SCHOOLS ARE CLOSED…WHELP THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH CHARTER..UMMMM RANDOM EMAIL,PHONE CALL AND TEXT MESSAGE ALL SUCCESS ACADEMY SCHOOLS CLOSED DUE TO WINTER WEATHER STORM. DAMNNNNN TO BE CONTINUED….THESE CHILDREN ARE GOING TO DRIVE ME CRAZYYYY TOMORROW….
WHEN IN A RELATIONSHIP ARE EXPECTATIONS NEEDED? SHOULD A PERSON HAVE THEM BEFORE ENTERING THE RELATIONSHIP? IVE HAD THE PLEASURE OF HEARING DIFFERENT POINT OF VIEWS ON THIS TOPIC. HONESTLY IVE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT THIS I MEAN THERE ARE MANY THINGS I EXPECT AND LOOK FORWARD TO. BUT I NEVER THOUGHT THOSE WERE MY EXPECTATIONS.. I KNOW I KNOW WHAT YOUR THINKING THE MOMENT YOU START DEALING WITH SOMEONE AND YOU LAY DOWN WHAT YOU DO AND DON’T EXPECT THEY MIGHT SAY F THIS IM OUT..LOL.. BUT MAYBE THEY WONT AND MAYBE THERE IS A DIFFERENT APPROACH.. TAKE MARRIAGE AND KIDS FOR INSTANCE MANY RELATIONSHIPS PART WAYS BECAUSE ONE PERSON WANTS KIDS AND THE OTHER DOES’NT OR ONE PERSON WANTS TO BE MARRIED AND THE OTHER FEELS WHY PUT A TITLE ON SOMETHING THATS NOT BROKEN.. THESE TWO TOPICS ALONE CAN EASILY BE AVOIDED IF YOU LAY DOWN YOUR EXPECTATIONS.. OR HOW ABOUT THIS ONE FOR THE YOUNGER ONES SOCIAL MEDIA… “I EXPECT YOU TO PUT PICS UP OF ME” LOL I KNOW PETTY BUT LISTEN THIS IS HOW MANY PEOPLE THINK.. EVEN HOLIDAYS SUCH AS VALENTINES DAY.. MANY PEOPLE FEEL THIS HOLIDAY IS FOR THE FEMALES, SOME FEEL ITS FOR WHOEVER YOU WANT IT TO BE FOR.. MANY EXPECT GIFTS, OTHERS LOOK AT IT AS JUST ANOTHER DAY “I LOVE YOU 365 DAYS ONE DAY CANT PROVE MY LOVE FOR YOU”.I MEAN LISTEN RELATIONSHIPS ARE A LOT OF WORK THINK ABOUT DISCUSSING YOUR EXPECTATIONS BEFORE ITS TOO LATE… XOXO INDIA
PS. THANK YOU SHARONE GREAT CONVERSATION..